They say acknowledging there is a problem is the first step, ergo, My name is Samantha, and in 412 days, I will turn 40. Full disclosure, I am not a fan of Birthdays to begin with, so perhaps I am a little hyper sensitive to the underlying meaning of turning a year older, as I am in full on flight or fight mode when face to face with a birthday cake.
It was in 2011, on my 36th birthday, I realized that I was officially in my last year of 'mid 30's' come 37, and I would soon be one of the 'late 30's' crowd. This knowledge sent me into a full fledge panic. About a week later, I went back to college, knowing that time wasn't on my side, I piled on the classes and finished my Paralegal Studies program in 15 months rather than 3 years. Not bad for an old lady, I thought - then with less than a month to graduate the program, I had an epiphany - why stop there? Why not go the distance and become a lawyer? Heck! Why not! I was full of momentum ...or perhaps I confused Momentum and vodka...comme ci comme ça- right?
Perhaps that should have been the first indication that I was on the verge of what might be a mid-life crisis (I haven't fully acknowledged that this could be the case, nor will I for at least another 20 years... so just let this sleeping dog lie.) It wasn't more than a day or so after enrolling in Law School that I had my second come to Jesus moment, that I am perfectly capable of caring for myself, and I don't "need" anyone to save me, thank you very much. I'm not here to blow sunshine up your ass, so I won't say that this moment changed me and every moment going forward. When I was 18, I worked a full time job in a nursing home as a department head, and no one took me seriously because I was 18 and about 60 years younger than most of my patients.
Somedays I still feel that way, like I'm the kid in the room trying to prove myself..
That is of course until someone younger than me says something mindblowing, for example tonight, one of my class mates admitted that earlier today she saw "in real life' for the first time, a ...drumroll.. typewriter! And then followed up the comment with, so like, how did people carry those around? I choked on my coffee and then she nearly fell out of her chair, when I told her that I typed my 12th grade English final on one of those 'dinasours' and they were not carried around such as a lap top, they lived at home, and people took notes on a steno pad. Yes. Really. They aren't just hipster cool.
The revelation hasn't stopped with beginning grad school. Not even close. In the past month, I have rather unceremoniously changed jobs and left my job at the winery, one I've had for over 12 years, in an industry I've been in for more than half my life. I've come to terms with the fact that I spent time, effort and money to learn a new set of job skills, skills that will propel me to exceed later as a lawyer, so damn it, why sit on the side lines, until I pass the bar? I jumped in head first - scared to fucking death, and knowing I will either sink or swim. Either my advanced age has calculated the risks and deemed it a 'safe bet', or my naïvety still rears it's ugly head when major life decisions need to be made and I'm flying by the seat of my pants... the jury is still out.
I didn't stop there, I've committed to starting a new diet in the next two weeks, a new exercise routine, and *gasp* not having a cocktail until my 39th birthday. I'm either the smartest woman in the world, or I'm setting myself up to crash and burn. Go big or go home... isn't that what today's youth say?
So what prompted me to cowrite this blog? I recently went to a new doctor, and had to fill out the mundane forms, when I got to the known allergies section, my answer was:
Vicodine, and turning 40.
My answer hardly went unnoticed. Although when your doctor is pushing 70, and staring over his spectacles with a less than amused look and a comment about "honey you ain't seen nothing yet" you just nervously grin and nod at the white washed advice Doc gives to get over that feeling and get the hell out the door.
I came home a changed woman, and decided that while I can't stop time, I can fight the aging process every step of the way, so I am here, standing up to 40, and saying fuck you 40! I am arming myself with face cream, hair dye and anything else I can get my hands on.
Shortly after, I sent the following text to Ophelia: I haven't formed my entire plan yet...but I think we need a Thelma and Louise 39th year. We need to turn everything in our wake on end. Diet. Life. Negative people, you name it, I'm down to do it. We need to kiss our 30's goodbye ina style like no other... and not surprisingly she replied in the affirmative. I don't know how much bourbon factored into our decision, but clearly it was more than a passing thought for the both of us, and so here we are.
So this blog is our journey to 40. We aren't here to sugar coat it, I will tell you right now, I never had kids and my damn boobs still succumbed to gravity. I got my first grey hair at 18. Being chin hair free is a daily battle, and smile lines maybe my biggest enemy. I don't know where I am going, or what I am going to learn on this adventure, but for now, here is my journey, and if you take anything positive away from it, I am happy I could impart some wisdom. If you don't like what I have to say, stop reading. It's that simple. This is more for me (and O) then an audience anyway.
.. and 40? I may not be able to stop you, but I'm going to fight you every step of the way. Game on.
and one last parting thought... Damn you Mary Schmich and your sunscreen speech... you were right!
~s
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